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Be your own
wedding planner.
You have almost certainly never done this before, and you'll probably never do it again. Every decision is the first one you've ever made like it, with real money on it and no way to tell whether you're getting it right. Feeling underwater doesn't mean you're bad at this — it means nobody gets practice first.
Be Your Planner is one place to keep all of it, and one screen that tells you where things actually stand. We're building it now.
No product to try yet — just one email when there is.
What this is really about
The part nobody warns you about
It isn't the work. It's the doubt running underneath it — whether you got engaged last week or you've already signed half your vendors.
“I'm going to forget something.”
This one never quite goes away, because there's no master list to check yourself against — you don't know what you don't know yet. That isn't a memory problem, and trying harder doesn't fix it. It's what happens when the details live in six different places. A plan that holds all of them, with real dates attached, does the remembering instead of you.
“I have no idea if this price is fair.”
You're hiring a florist for the first time, and probably the only time. Quotes come back written three different ways — one per head, one with a room fee, one bundling in chairs the others charge for. Laid out on the same rows, side by side, the answer is usually obvious. Getting them onto the same rows is the hard part, and that's the part we're building.
“Somehow this has all landed on me.”
Usually one person ends up holding the whole picture in their head, which means everyone else has to come through them to find anything out. That's how offering to help turns into interrupting. When the plan is somewhere your partner and your family can actually open it, they can see where things stand without asking you first.
“We're supposed to be enjoying this.”
Being engaged and running a months-long project at the same time is a strange thing to be asked to do, and feeling guilty that you aren't enjoying it more is nearly universal. Most of that weight is the mental kind — the details you're carrying around because you're afraid to put them down. Written down somewhere you trust, they stop following you.
Ten parts, one plan
Every part of your wedding, in one place
These are the ten trackers I built for my own wedding, rebuilt for yours. Each one is under active development — this is what's coming, not what's live today.
Setup
Get everyone who's helping — your people, your vendors — on the same page from day one.
Tasks
Know exactly what's next, in what order, and stop wondering what you might have forgotten.
Budget
See what's actually left to spend — real numbers, not a guess you're afraid to check.
Vendors
Line up quotes side by side, weigh the pros and cons, and book each one with confidence.
Guests
Every guest and every detail in one list, instead of scattered across six spreadsheets.
Seating
See your reception room before the wedding, and know exactly where everyone sits.
Day-of items
Nothing gets left behind, because every item has a home, a purpose, and someone in charge of it.
Timelines
Your vendors and your wedding party know exactly where to be, and when, without you repeating yourself.
Gifts & thank-yous
Keep track of who gave what, so a thank-you note never quietly falls through the cracks.
Dashboard
One glance tells you exactly where things stand — what's done, what's due, what needs you next.
Where this came from
Why these hold up
None of this started as software. It started with three venue quotes that refused to line up — one priced per head, one with a room fee, one bundling in chairs the others charged for separately. The only way to see what we were actually choosing between was to build the comparison myself, row by row, in Excel.
Then I did it again for florists. Then photographers. Same shape every time, built from scratch every time — so I stopped starting over and started building properly. Breaking sprawling work into pieces small enough to decide on is what I do for a living, and a wedding turns out to be exactly that shape. By the time we got married it wasn't a pile of spreadsheets any more, it was a system, and it ran the whole wedding start to finish.
It was never for sale — it was one wedding's worth of spreadsheets, mine. It matters only because it means what's being built here comes out of something that already worked, rather than a guess at what would help.
Read the longer versionKnow when it's ready
Leave your email and I'll tell you the moment there's something you can actually plan with. That's the only thing to do here for now.
In the meantime the planning guides are free to read right now.